Pretty new hotwifing podcast: Hollyās Hotwife Life.
This is an introductory episode, which touches lightly on:
What theyāre like as a couple
What sheās like as a person
How the fantasy came up in conversation
False starts
The first experience (it gets pretty sexy right at this point!)
How things have been going since then
Highly recommended for people who are more curious about their own fantasies!
Check it out, and support her great endeavor to provide public information on this kink! Rate the podcast, and drop her a line with questions and comments. Note: weāre not affiliated with this podcast at allāwe just think itās great that sheās doing this public service! š
Even if sheās making that shit up, itās still arousing as fuck for him!
The multiple-choice mystery…is it because itās:
Sperm competition
Homemade porn
Virtual voyeurism
Compersion
Mutual arousal
All of the above
The right answer is probably āall of the above,ā plus some other things we donāt even under yet!
Damn! I really thought I had that job nailed down! ~ Nat
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Good try though.
And your husband loves that your playdate loves your ass, and he loves how much you love the awesome things they both say about you. Itās just a big, confusing circle of people loving stuff!
News: āStagā men love watching other guys have sex with their wivesā¦ but itās not cuckolding
By Holly O’Mahony and Lollie Barr for the New York Post
Excerpts below:
Itās certainly not for everyone, but some men get off watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with other men. Meet Stag and Vixen couple Susie*, 36, and Shane*, 38, who go under the Twitter handle, @Ourlittlesecret. So-called because apart from indulging in extra circular bedroom activities, theyāre otherwise a long-term straight married couple with kids and regular jobs, whose friends have no idea what they get up to.
It was Shaneās long-held fantasy for Susie to have sex with another man.
Susie explains: āWeād often roleplay it in a fantasy situation. However, I was too insecure about my body to entertain the thought of having sex with anyone else. Then we started the Twitter account and started posting naked pictures (Susie never shows her face, so thereās an anonymity). I enjoyed the exhibitionism and the compliments. I got talking to a guy who lived in our city and he asked me out for coffee. Shane was all for it.ā
For some, the decision to open up the relationship in this way comes after they’ve been an exclusive couple for a long time. Susie says: āSex with another man was appealing because Shane and I have been together since I was 18. I felt like a teenager who was dating again.ā
The obvious question that had be asked is whether Susie ever felt coerced in any way. āNo, I wouldnāt have done it if I didnāt want to. I like being able to experience pleasure with other men. However, sex anyone other than Shane is purely sexual. Our relationship is my prime focus.ā
The couple say they have more sex together now.
They cover a lot of ground. Read the whole article at this link!
In this essay, a husband shares his six-month struggle to process his wifeās request for an open marriage, and how two years down the road itās been beneficial for their communication, love, and affection.
Here are some amazing excerpts from the essay:
For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap. She knew how deep our love was, and knew that her wanting a variety of sexual experiences as we traveled through life together would not diminish or disrupt that love. It took me about six months ā many long, intense conversations, and an ocean of red wine ā before I knew it, too.
When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other lovers, she wasnāt rejecting me, she was embracing herself.
That was two years ago, and today weāve never been happier, more in tune, closer, tighter, stronger. Whatever power I surrendered, I donāt miss. I wouldnāt recommend it for everyone, but I tell everyone it works for us.
It feels very adult, especially because it depends on open, honest communication. We take great pride in all the talking we do. I meet a lot of people who say theyāll never get married because they donāt want to get divorced, and hearing it always makes me sad, because they are cutting themselves off from the possibility of the magic that happens when two people share their lives. People donāt divorce because they canāt stand sharing anymore; they divorce because they feel like they canāt share enough.
This has been the great challenge of my open marriage: to draw strength from vulnerability. Doing so requires supreme self-confidence. You must first really, truly love yourself; it is the foundation upon which all the other love is built.
From everywhere comes the message that what Iām doing is for weaklings, losers, failures, pussies; that if I had money and status, I could keep my wife āin lineā; that her self-discovery comes at the expense of my self-esteem. My open marriage has made heavy demands on my ability to silence the voice of doubt in my head, that gnawing feeling of worthlessness. But I find I can meet those demands, and that I am able to build my self-confidence out of nothing more than the basic dignity we all possess.
Iām grateful to my wife for pushing us to take this leap.
Itās strange to write things like this down, but itās something that I have been thinking about.
Iāve only kissed or tasted one man since I started dating my future husband, some 20 years ago. I havenāt been caressed or kissed by anyone since then. Even before I met my husband, I didnāt really have a lot of experience. I was naĆÆve, and all I knew was that I was supposed to meet the right guy and marry him. Which I did, and I have never regretted that once in my life! Iād do it all over again.
Iām also not ashamed that Iāve been so faithful and loyal to my husband, since thatās all we knew about for most of our life. If Iād have cheated, it would have been a massive betrayal, and I would have regretted it. So Iām proud of how faithful I have been, and I love that Iāve never once given my husband a reason to doubt my loyalty.
But if Iām being honest, way down deep I have gotten curious about what another man would be like. Mainly things like kissing, hugging, holding close, but also much more explicit things too. Iām surprised at myself! But I feel free to imagine things a lot more lately.
My husband and I have been talking about some of his fantasies. Iāll admit, I was shocked at him at first, because I thought heād be the last man to ever think about something like this. After I told him I didnāt like talking about this kind of thing (honestly, I was very uncomfortable), the truth is that it got in my head. Itās kind of like a song thatās too catchy, and so you have to whistle it or hum it all day. I just hadnāt known that there were other ideas out there.
Iām not at a point where Iām ready to start meeting guys to date, even though my husband says heād be okay with that. I still have things to think about. But I definitely know Iām looking at men a whole lot differently these days.
What I found more surprising is that Iām looking at myself differently too. I havenāt lost anything, and Iām still the same loving wife and mom. What has happened is that Iāve got a whole different sense of how attractive I might be, or something like that. Hard to explain it exactly. My husband says heās noticed āsomething differentā, and we are having more (and I think better) sex than we have in years. Thanks, other guys! Lol.
This is all pretty new to me, and Iām still thinking it over. But I know that I definitely have some curiousity about what I might like to do. Itās not a threat to my husband, and itās making a good thing even better.
I think Iām going to to try something I never tried, which is flirting. I never learned how, even when I was younger. Iām also paying more attention to what I find attractive in men. Iām honestly…just more horny lately. One day I came pretty close to downloading Tinder to see what it was like, but I chickened out. I think I want my husband to be there if I do that, and Iām still too chicken to bring it up. Itās hard enough to admit it anonymously, but itās also liberating and sort of sexy.
Iām still the same loyal wifey, but Iām having some fun with my husbandās crazy idea. Iām also glad to see that weāre not alone. Is it just me, or does everyone else whoās 40 years old start doing things like this? I guess I just notice it more now that Iām looking into it.
Big questions I have about actually doing something like this are mostly about safety. I think I want to make sure I would only see a guy who has been tested. Iād want to be someplace safe and secret. I think Iād like to do it out of town, and have a real date. I like the idea of dinner and the whole works. These are some of the things I have questions about. But even the questions are sexy, which is something my husband pointed out.
Awesomeāgood luck, guys!!!
Have you seen this caption on peopleās Facebook or Tumblr pages?
You know, usually on the page of your friend or relative who married a cheating douchebag, who then abandoned her when he was confronted? Yes, we can all agree that sucks. Nobody in their right mind would advocate for Mr. Cheato Jerkwad.
Yeah, this fills a need for them. It helps them imagine the love and security they never got from their partner. Iāll never ridicule them or argue on their timeline about it. Theyāve already been through plenty.
What theyāre trying to express with this caption is a deep-seated need we all have. Theyāre asking, āWill you be loyal to me? Or do I have to be afraid of losing you, too?ā
Weāre explicitly, totally against cheating. And we feel sorry for anyone whoās been betrayed.
Unfortunately, this caption also creates extremely unrealistic expectations. (Exactly as dumb and unrealistic as a lot of the ridiculous hotwifing captions you thumb through on here.)
If this is the measure of true love, you might as well hire an animator to paint you into a Disney movie, because this is a fantasy that doesnāt take into account biology, psychology, or the kind of development that occurs in the healthiest relationships.
Besides that, the whole thing is so vague. Who is āa psychology professor?ā Is it a man or a woman? Are they American, Czech, Thai, or Hatian? Do they work at a big college, a community college, or a basement correspondence school? Did they say this in class, or while giving a toast at a wedding, or after watching a romantic comedy with friends?
It sounds more like somebody said something they really felt should be true, then looked for a way to give it some authority. āOh, you know who people think are smart about these things? Psychology professors!ā So they invented the fact that a psychology professor said this thing that they want to be true. It makes it feel more true.
But the statement itself is so absolute and one-sided. All people are absolutely monogamous demisexuals? Widows who still love their deceasing husband will never be able to get attracted to a living guy? Swingers who stay married for 60 years werenāt in love? You mean polyamorous people donāt exist? Thatās pretty extreme.
Letās get it straight: this isnāt a psychology fact at all. Itās…
a nice sentiment, like unicorns and Care Bears
a way for betrayed people to imagine what a better person would be like
guaranteed clickbait
widely believed, especially in conservative contexts (some churches teach things like this)
detrimental to people in real relationships
an extremist position
not something youāll find agreeable to many real-world therapists and psychology professors
great for cartoons and Hallmark movies, but not for real life
So in conclusion, this meme applies in a way to cheaters and those they abandon. Itās completely irrelevant for most of us. And exploring our fantasies together in a loving, full-communication, functional marriage can go a long way to preventing people from even being tempted to cheat.
So ladies, keep checking out menās butts, and be sure to tell your husband about it š. Guys, donāt start to develop needless anxiety because you read something like this caption.Youāre both fine. Donāt let shit like this mess with your head. It doesnāt apply to us!
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