The bedroom is not the only place where I tease my beloved husband. In fact, teasing outside the bedroom is a huge and essential part of our play.
I’ll start, though, with things we don’t do:
We’re both adults, we deeply respect each other, and (in marriage) we’re on the same team. So I would never do anything to humiliate him in public. That hurts both of us, imho. That includes never telling my girlfriends that I control and deny him. I tell them he’s a stud… which he fucking is. That’s all they need to know.
I’m also not into the cuckold fantasies you see online, so I never use other men to tease him. I actually think it’s hotter for him to know, without a doubt, that I expect him, and only him, to provide ALL of my pleasure and satisfaction, forever. My happiness is his lifelong challenge – I consider it part of his wedding vow. Conversely, my vow is that I will always and only use him for my fulfillment. He is my rock. I don’t need any other rocks.
But hey, if you’re into public humiliation or cuckold fantasies, there are plenty of blogs out there for you. Do your thing, and have fun with it!
Now here’s a list of some of my favorite tricks for teasing my husband outside the bedroom:
My favorite, simple, oldie-but-goldie trick is to just grab his crotch through his pants, hold on, and rub a little – just enough to trigger his memory of what my hands can do. With firm eye contact, I do this discreetly (duh!) both in private and in crowds. In a crowd, it becomes a minor predicament for him, because it forces him to make some “adjustments,” which I get a kick out of. (note how that’s different, though, from openly humiliating him)
Suck his finger(s), with steady eye contact. So simple. So effective! I just take his hand, form a pointing finger from his fist, and slide it slowly into my mouth. The innuendo is obvious. His reaction is adorable, every time.
Dressing up / dressing down. My husband has a “thing” for yoga pants, yoga shorts, tennis skirts, high socks, and sports bras – basically, fitness clothes. Every guy on Earth has his “thing.” Know your guy’s thing. Use it!
Text messages! This is huge. Like most normal people, I sometimes have more courage in writing than I do when speaking. Also like normal people, my husband and I spend most of the day apart, working normal jobs. This makes sexy texting a priceless part of tease-play. When do I text? Simple: after a night of edging, I always sext him the next day to keep his heat up. Always! Even if it’s a weekend and he’s sitting right next to me – I still make sure to sext him at least once. What do I say? Most of my sexts fall into four simple categories: 1) encouragement and positive reinforcement, like “Great job last night, baby!”; 2) hints of future teasing, like “Round three tonight. Be ready!”; 3) playfully dangling a prize beyond his reach, like “Wow I’m so wet right now… Too bad you’re at work!”; or 4) a cryptic string of suggestive emojis for his imagination to decipher. Personally, I’m not big into roleplaying via text (like “I slip the cuffs around your ankles, and then I…”) but I know many people are – so, that’s an idea, too.
Whip it out. Technically it’s “outside the bedroom,” but I’m not sure if this counts. Anyway, in private, I tell him to sit still, then I just reach over, unfasten his pants, whip it out, and play a little. I might do this in the car, while we sit in a fast-food drive thru. Or on the couch, during football. Or as a reward for watching a chick-flick with me. The “play” can be very simple – I like to hold him tight and squeeze rhythmically (no strokes, just squeezes, so my arm doesn’t get tired) which, if I do it long enough, builds an edge so incredibly sloooow that it’s brainlessly easy for me to control and maintain it, once he’s close. One time, on an airplane, I covered his lap with a blanket and did exactly that to him for the entire flight! (the Denial-High Club? Okay… bad pun, sorry!) While he was sweating and clenching his armrests, I could still enjoy my magazine with my free hand, and I nonchalantly asked for his opinion on some articles and made him sniff the fold-out perfume pages, like no big deal. It was super fun for both of us – he still talks about it!
Make him collect mysterious props. I looove this trick! It’s as simple as saying (or texting), “Hey, while you’re at the store, get some Gatorade and a bag of ice for tonight. Thanks!” It can literally be any random shit. “Hey, can you get my tennis racket from the car?… Yeah, leave it by the bed. Thanks baby!” Sometimes I have a real plan for the items. Sometimes I don’t. Either way, let his imagination do the teasing.
Lip-reading or sign language. In the middle of a party or dinner with friends, you can silently mouth or signal something simple, clear, and sexy from across the room or across the table, just to tease him. “Fuck” is dead easy to lip-read, and (as far as I know) an informal hand-sign for sex looks like two scissors, lying flat, doing missionary. So a real-world example I discreetly mouthed to my husband at a dinner was: “I. (point at myself) Will. Fuck. (flat scissor) You. (point at him) Hard. (fist, wink)” He loved it!
Tumblr. Yup! This place is loaded with sexy pictures, gifs, captions, and great ideas in writing – making it an obvious tool for teasing. You can forward or copy stuff to his phone or his email, just to keep up his heat. Or you can make it more interactive. Send him three hot gifs of men pleasuring women in three different ways, plus the simple-yet-ominous command “Pick one.” Or tell him to send three to you, for you to pick one. Or send him on a kinky scavenger hunt. (”Hold my vibe against your cock, on full power, and find me 5 gifs of men being ruined and 5 gifs of women climaxing. Don’t cum. They must be gifs I’ve never seen before. You can stop the vibe when I reply to your email, but I won’t reply if the gifs aren’t good enough.”) Get creative!
Those are just a few ideas. There are endless other possibilities, limited only by your imagination! If any readers have more ideas or personal stories of teasing outside the bedroom, please reply and share!
And always remember to have fun!
Nice write-up! I’m not for humiliation in the least either, but some of these teasing ideas can keep a husband and wife bonding together.
Another promise for wives. This time, it’s a reminder that there’s no bait-and-switch attached to hotwifing. For some reason it’s a common concern, but without much real basis. You mainly hear it from wives who, for whatever reason, can’t believe this is a real, authentic desire that some men actually have.
Husbands with these desires aren’t just using some awkward method of getting permission for themselves to start sleeping around. Realistically, that probably would have been easier for most husbands to admit and explain to their wives than this kink! That’s not what he’s trying to do.
Having your passion unleashed on another man is its own primal reward to him, so there’s no need for a trade and there’s nothing to be paid back.
The only thing he’s going to want “in return” is more of you, more details from you, and for you to go on even more dates!
WHAT IS A STAG
The term Stag differs from the term cuckold. According to Sage Vivant, author of the book ‘Your Erotic Personality’, Stag are typically heterosexual men who get off on the idea of their wives or girlfriends being with other men but do not really fit the historical term cuckold. Many such men dislike the term cuckold because society has denigrated its meaning, making it a shameful thing. This has not only been misunderstood but also rather disrespected throughout history. They were seen as weak men that in a bizarre tradition from Europe were seen to wear antlers as symbols of this supposed weakness. Thankfully in modern times we are a little more enlightened and in recent years the meaning of the word has morphed into something more empowering for both genders. The growth of the term ‘HOTWIFE’ in reference to the partners of such men is now well established in sexual subcultures. Some men are cuckolds proper in that they seek humiliation and debasement and possible homosexual encounters, and there is nothing wrong with that, to each his own fetish, however, by far more men identify with the term ‘Stag’ . They share with cuckolds the desire to see their partners take on extra lovers while they remain monogamous but that is where the similarities end. For the stag this is always by consent and any humiliation aspect is just a playful erotic teasing game with his wife rather than any real desire to be humiliated. He will never be humiliated or intimidated by his partner’s lovers. He is a strong type that simply derives huge erotic pleasure from seeing his wife or girlfriend being so alluring that nobody could resist her and considers it only natural and very arousing that she’ll need and deserve sexual satisfaction from others as well as him. He holds a genuine love and respect for his wife or girlfriend with whom he shares this erotic and fun lifestyle. For this reason the proper term for the partner of most hotwives is a STAG rather than cuckold. This behavior ranges from merely sharing the fantasy and acting out role play scenarios to full on Hotwifing. It is just one part of a relationship and many couples only dabble occasionally. Some couples discover ‘Hotwifing’ early in their relationships while others find it much later but either way it is a hugely growing phenomenon. The reasons for ‘Hotwifing’ have always been around and lie deep in our evolutionary history as a species but factors such as female empowerment, better contraceptive/safer sex technologies, ease of online communication and information combined with other factors have brought it out of the shadows to the edge of the mainstream. Welcome to Stag and Hotwife Games, here we attempt to use images and captions to catch the eroticism and fun of couples that have delved into this world to reclaim the cuckold horns for the proud ‘STAG’
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So apparently I am a Stag, learned something new 😉
A lot of people (wives especially) want to fantasize about this kink before they try it. And many say, “I don’t know how to incorporate this for my husband, and I especially don’t know what to say.” Well…there are plenty of misleading hotwife captions out there, but this one is actually great. It gives you an idea of what to say and do, and you just need to improvise a little. Don’t worry about having a speech prepared, because chances are good that an inexperienced husband will cum pretty fast if his wife’s doing this to him!
Hotwife Facts and Fantasies 