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Have you seen this caption on people’s Facebook or Tumblr pages?

You know, usually on the page of your friend or relative who married a cheating douchebag, who then abandoned her when he was confronted? Yes, we can all agree that sucks. Nobody in their right mind would advocate for Mr. Cheato Jerkwad.

Yeah, this fills a need for them. It helps them imagine the love and security they never got from their partner. I’ll never ridicule them or argue on their timeline about it. They’ve already been through plenty.

What they’re trying to express with this caption is a deep-seated need we all have. They’re asking, “Will you be loyal to me? Or do I have to be afraid of losing you, too?”

We’re explicitly, totally against cheating. And we feel sorry for anyone who’s been betrayed.

Unfortunately, this caption also creates extremely unrealistic expectations. (Exactly as dumb and unrealistic as a lot of the ridiculous hotwifing captions you thumb through on here.)

If this is the measure of true love, you might as well hire an animator to paint you into a Disney movie, because this is a fantasy that doesn’t take into account biology, psychology, or the kind of development that occurs in the healthiest relationships.

Besides that, the whole thing is so vague. Who is “a psychology professor?” Is it a man or a woman? Are they American, Czech, Thai, or Hatian? Do they work at a big college, a community college, or a basement correspondence school? Did they say this in class, or while giving a toast at a wedding, or after watching a romantic comedy with friends?

It sounds more like somebody said something they really felt should be true, then looked for a way to give it some authority. “Oh, you know who people think are smart about these things? Psychology professors!” So they invented the fact that a psychology professor said this thing that they want to be true. It makes it feel more true.

But the statement itself is so absolute and one-sided. All people are absolutely monogamous demisexuals? Widows who still love their deceasing husband will never be able to get attracted to a living guy? Swingers who stay married for 60 years weren’t in love? You mean polyamorous people don’t exist? That’s pretty extreme.

Let’s get it straight: this isn’t a psychology fact at all. It’s…

  • a nice sentiment, like unicorns and Care Bears
  • a way for betrayed people to imagine what a better person would be like
  • guaranteed clickbait
  • widely believed, especially in conservative contexts (some churches teach things like this)
  • detrimental to people in real relationships
  • an extremist position
  • not something you’ll find agreeable to many real-world therapists and psychology professors
  • great for cartoons and Hallmark movies, but not for real life

So in conclusion, this meme applies in a way to cheaters and those they abandon. It’s completely irrelevant for most of us. And exploring our fantasies together in a loving, full-communication, functional marriage can go a long way to preventing people from even being tempted to cheat.

So ladies, keep checking out men’s butts, and be sure to tell your husband about it 😈. Guys, don’t start to develop needless anxiety because you read something like this caption. You’re both fine. Don’t let shit like this mess with your head. It doesn’t apply to us!

Actually, it’s nice when you can find a playmate who can actually provide a mini-vacation!

Dinner, drinks, some sort of fun distractions…Even if you never actually had sex.

This is one of the big reasons why many married women seek out affairs after 10–20 years of marriage. It’s a shame they have to lie and deceive to get something that’s basically pretty understandable. And tame.

And as many specialists are concluding: besides the unethical deception, the long-term benefits can be really good. If you remove the terrible parts (lying, betrayal) and do it ethically, it can be extremely beneficial for a weary wife and mother.

(Even better if the husband finds it arousing to imagine what she’s doing.)

It’s just a short getaway, and you can return home to the family feeling very relaxed and ready to reconnect.

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This is one of the several reasons why so many husbands get turned on by this kink. He loves feeling possessive, and sharing only highlights that.

Husbands with this kink have a totally inaccurate reputation for not being possessive. For a lot of men, it’s a high-level possessiveness without jealousy. It’s almost like saying, “She’s mine, not yours—even if she lets you touch her, she’s coming right back to me.”

“I have something (actually some one) you’d love to experience. Will you get to touch her? Hmmm, that all depends on a lot of things…but I get to kiss her whenever. Because I’m a badass who’s married to this hottie.”

Hotwifing emphasizes:

  • The permanent, solid, immense value of the wife to the husband, that he’s incredibly infatuated and confident of his bond with her.
  • Her absolute desirability, that other men would want her like that, and that her desirability is a part of her, and that suppressing this desirability would be criminal.
  • The contingent, conditional, temporary value of other men outside the marriage—they have no innate relationship to her, only what she and her husband allow.
  • The wife’s conviction that her husband really finds her this desirable, and that she’s so confident about his commitment to her, and the realization that her relationship to any other man only emphasizes the permanent depth of their marriage commitment.

A crude, but effective, illustration I’ve heard elsewhere is that a man who values his wife like this can be compared to a guy who has a prized Lamborgini sports car.

This thing is a valuable, amazing possession. He’s going to be very possessive—don’t try to steal it! If you’re a decent and trustworthy person, sure, he’ll let you run your hand along the surface and sit in the seat. If you’re a really worthwhile person, he might let you go slowly down the driveway. If you’re really a special person who knows what they’re doing, he might sit in the passenger’s seat while you drive. But he’s going to be watching the whole time, and making sure you treat this prized possession better than they treat anything else.

And he has the satisfaction of knowing this car is his all day, every day. Letting you drive it and say “oooh, ahhh, amazing car” only reminds him that he’s the lucky owner.

Letting “her” go around the track once or twice with another driver only makes him more eager to get back in the driver’s seat of the car he loves.

Now, instead of a car a guy owns, replace it with a loving wife, a person who nobody actually owns and never really could. She chose him too, and loves him back. This is the woman he prizes above every physical object, whom he wants to grow old with. Nobody owns her, but he likes to feel like they willingly “own each other” in a way.

Just like that Lamborgini owner, he loves showing off his most amazing “prize.” Hearing someone praise her or get turned on by her would be scary if he didn’t truly trust that she loved him back. But he believes that they’re really meant for each other. Unlike a car, she loves him back—which really puts things over the edge for him. Like, a total wash of emotions!

Obviously, every metaphor has limits. This one? Be careful not to reduce a woman to a possession or an object. The lesson isn’t about her as some sort of possessed object. Please. The lesson is about the husband’s feelings. She can’t be possessed, but he still feels possessive. She can’t be owned, but he can get a satisfied feeling that resembles it enough to make it feel good.

It’s about all the trust and pride that goes with it.

This explains a little bit how so many husbands don’t feel jealous, but still feet super possessive of their relationships with their wife. People who jump right to jealousy without ever once trying to understand what jealousy means are missing something. And they’re not going to understand compersion, for sure!

Don’t mistake a lack of jealousy for the absence of care, love, and deep attachment. You can be very sharing and also very careful about your relationship.

Knowing that your wife turns on other guys can be incredibly arousing! But knowing she’s yours for life is priceless!

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Negative aspect of this caption, disclaimer style: women should feel confident and self-assured no matter what they do, what weight they are, or what they’re like sexually speaking. Same goes for guys too in different ways, but it’s more obvious how much women get torn down. Society sets up some crazy expectations. If a woman can’t be convinced she’s desirable or important without one or two specific activities (like sex), then she should probably investigate why she’s feeling that way. It could be a really deep issue. And sex isn’t going to be the answer, no matter what kind of sex we’re talking about. Sex isn’t a long-term cure-all.

Positive aspect of this caption: it’s true that women who sleep with other men often report an immediate surge in confidence and arousal. A lot of it seems to be biological, so it’s true of hotwifing, swinging, dating after divorce, or outright cheating. But in hotwifing couples, wives have an extra edge, compersion. Hotwives know their husbands are getting aroused by her arousal, besides the excitement of the variety with a new gentleman. It’s a massive cycle of arousal and confidence. This caption isn’t true for all people in every place and time, but it’s a huge part of couples’ success stories of modern hotwifing couples. Wives feel rejuvenated and transformed into a more vibrant way of thinking—often something she may have felt more of in youth, but now tempered with the wisdom of a more experienced wife and mother.

So with the caveat above in mind, it’s true: wives who date frequently say they’ve become more confident and satisfied.

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As you can see, there are quite a few captions that show how popular of a fantasy it is for guys to imagine their wife undressed with another man.

Men won’t come out and talk about this taboo subject in polite conversation, but they do have a lot more freedom here in the anonymous internet world. And women can learn a lot about their husbands by asking if he’s one of these guys.

Chances are, he’s very aroused by this idea of his loving wife acting very naughty (at least every once in awhile).

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If more wives knew what kind of crazy stuff their guys were thinking about their soulmate—they’d be amazed!

As you can tell, there are quite a few captions that show how popular of a fantasy it is for guys to imagine their wife undressed with another man.

Men won’t come out and talk about this taboo subject in polite conversation, but they do have a lot more freedom here in the anonymous internet world. And women can learn a lot about their husbands by asking if he’s one of these guys.

Chances are, he’s very aroused by this idea of his loving wife acting very naughty (at least every once in awhile).