Self Magazine recently published an overview of factors that weigh into whether a couple might benefit from an open relationship (and three factors that would make it a bad idea).
It’s a very level-headed discussion. Hopefully it’s a good indication of how society is opening up to common sense in a very important area. So many problems can be avoided if we’re honest with ourselves about who we are as individuals!
Since the transition from Tumblr, the blog has been rather inactive. In the meantime, plenty of great new resources and discussion outlets have sprung up.
One of these is a one-year old subreddit, r/cuckoldpsychology. It already has over 13,000 members. Awesome!
Unlike most hotwife/cuckold sites, the discussion stays on the kinds of things people will want to know about as they explore changing their established relationship. In other words, it’s not a lot of captions and erotica. Below is a little sample of a recent post.
It’s great to see people talking. Good luck!
Obviously take this with a grain of salt.
“Episode 1” from Holly’s HotWifeLife by HollysHotWifeLife on Apple Podcasts
This is an introductory episode, which touches lightly on:
Highly recommended for people who are more curious about their own fantasies!
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And your husband loves that your playdate loves your ass, and he loves how much you love the awesome things they both say about you. Itās just a big, confusing circle of people loving stuff!
Itās certainly not for everyone, but some men get off watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with other men. Meet Stag and Vixen couple Susie*, 36, and Shane*, 38, who go under the Twitter handle, @Ourlittlesecret. So-called because apart from indulging in extra circular bedroom activities, theyāre otherwise a long-term straight married couple with kids and regular jobs, whose friends have no idea what they get up to.
It was Shaneās long-held fantasy for Susie to have sex with another man.
Susie explains: āWeād often roleplay it in a fantasy situation. However, I was too insecure about my body to entertain the thought of having sex with anyone else. Then we started the Twitter account and started posting naked pictures (Susie never shows her face, so thereās an anonymity). I enjoyed the exhibitionism and the compliments. I got talking to a guy who lived in our city and he asked me out for coffee. Shane was all for it.ā
For some, the decision to open up the relationship in this way comes after they’ve been an exclusive couple for a long time. Susie says: āSex with another man was appealing because Shane and I have been together since I was 18. I felt like a teenager who was dating again.ā
The obvious question that had be asked is whether Susie ever felt coerced in any way. āNo, I wouldnāt have done it if I didnāt want to. I like being able to experience pleasure with other men. However, sex anyone other than Shane is purely sexual. Our relationship is my prime focus.ā
The couple say they have more sex together now.
āStagā men love watching other guys have sex with their wivesā¦ but itās not cuckolding
Itās strange to write things like this down, but itās something that I have been thinking about.
Iāve only kissed or tasted one man since I started dating my future husband, some 20 years ago. I havenāt been caressed or kissed by anyone since then. Even before I met my husband, I didnāt really have a lot of experience. I was naĆÆve, and all I knew was that I was supposed to meet the right guy and marry him. Which I did, and I have never regretted that once in my life! Iād do it all over again.
Iām also not ashamed that Iāve been so faithful and loyal to my husband, since thatās all we knew about for most of our life. If Iād have cheated, it would have been a massive betrayal, and I would have regretted it. So Iām proud of how faithful I have been, and I love that Iāve never once given my husband a reason to doubt my loyalty.
But if Iām being honest, way down deep I have gotten curious about what another man would be like. Mainly things like kissing, hugging, holding close, but also much more explicit things too. Iām surprised at myself! But I feel free to imagine things a lot more lately.
My husband and I have been talking about some of his fantasies. Iāll admit, I was shocked at him at first, because I thought heād be the last man to ever think about something like this. After I told him I didnāt like talking about this kind of thing (honestly, I was very uncomfortable), the truth is that it got in my head. Itās kind of like a song thatās too catchy, and so you have to whistle it or hum it all day. I just hadnāt known that there were other ideas out there.
Iām not at a point where Iām ready to start meeting guys to date, even though my husband says heād be okay with that. I still have things to think about. But I definitely know Iām looking at men a whole lot differently these days.
What I found more surprising is that Iām looking at myself differently too. I havenāt lost anything, and Iām still the same loving wife and mom. What has happened is that Iāve got a whole different sense of how attractive I might be, or something like that. Hard to explain it exactly. My husband says heās noticed āsomething differentā, and we are having more (and I think better) sex than we have in years. Thanks, other guys! Lol.
This is all pretty new to me, and Iām still thinking it over. But I know that I definitely have some curiousity about what I might like to do. Itās not a threat to my husband, and itās making a good thing even better.
I think Iām going to to try something I never tried, which is flirting. I never learned how, even when I was younger. Iām also paying more attention to what I find attractive in men. Iām honestly…just more horny lately. One day I came pretty close to downloading Tinder to see what it was like, but I chickened out. I think I want my husband to be there if I do that, and Iām still too chicken to bring it up. Itās hard enough to admit it anonymously, but itās also liberating and sort of sexy.
Iām still the same loyal wifey, but Iām having some fun with my husbandās crazy idea. Iām also glad to see that weāre not alone. Is it just me, or does everyone else whoās 40 years old start doing things like this? I guess I just notice it more now that Iām looking into it.
Big questions I have about actually doing something like this are mostly about safety. I think I want to make sure I would only see a guy who has been tested. Iād want to be someplace safe and secret. I think Iād like to do it out of town, and have a real date. I like the idea of dinner and the whole works. These are some of the things I have questions about. But even the questions are sexy, which is something my husband pointed out.
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