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News: ‘Stag’ men love watching other guys have sex with their wives… but it’s not cuckolding

By Holly O’Mahony and Lollie Barr for the New York Post

Excerpts below:

It’s certainly not for everyone, but some men get off watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with other men. Meet Stag and Vixen couple Susie*, 36, and Shane*, 38, who go under the Twitter handle, @Ourlittlesecret. So-called because apart from indulging in extra circular bedroom activities, they’re otherwise a long-term straight married couple with kids and regular jobs, whose friends have no idea what they get up to.

It was Shane’s long-held fantasy for Susie to have sex with another man.

Susie explains: “We’d often roleplay it in a fantasy situation. However, I was too insecure about my body to entertain the thought of having sex with anyone else. Then we started the Twitter account and started posting naked pictures (Susie never shows her face, so there’s an anonymity). I enjoyed the exhibitionism and the compliments. I got talking to a guy who lived in our city and he asked me out for coffee. Shane was all for it.”

For some, the decision to open up the relationship in this way comes after they’ve been an exclusive couple for a long time. Susie says: “Sex with another man was appealing because Shane and I have been together since I was 18. I felt like a teenager who was dating again.”

The obvious question that had be asked is whether Susie ever felt coerced in any way. “No, I wouldn’t have done it if I didn’t want to. I like being able to experience pleasure with other men. However, sex anyone other than Shane is purely sexual. Our relationship is my prime focus.”

The couple say they have more sex together now.

They cover a lot of ground. Read the whole article at this link!

‘Stag’ men love watching other guys have sex with their wives… but it’s not cuckolding

What Open Marriage Taught Me About Feminism

In this essay, a husband shares his six-month struggle to process his wife’s request for an open marriage, and how two years down the road it’s been beneficial for their communication, love, and affection.

Here are some amazing excerpts from the essay:

For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap. She knew how deep our love was, and knew that her wanting a variety of sexual experiences as we traveled through life together would not diminish or disrupt that love. It took me about six months — many long, intense conversations, and an ocean of red wine — before I knew it, too.

When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other lovers, she wasn’t rejecting me, she was embracing herself.

That was two years ago, and today we’ve never been happier, more in tune, closer, tighter, stronger. Whatever power I surrendered, I don’t miss. I wouldn’t recommend it for everyone, but I tell everyone it works for us.

It feels very adult, especially because it depends on open, honest communication. We take great pride in all the talking we do. I meet a lot of people who say they’ll never get married because they don’t want to get divorced, and hearing it always makes me sad, because they are cutting themselves off from the possibility of the magic that happens when two people share their lives. People don’t divorce because they can’t stand sharing anymore; they divorce because they feel like they can’t share enough.

This has been the great challenge of my open marriage: to draw strength from vulnerability. Doing so requires supreme self-confidence. You must first really, truly love yourself; it is the foundation upon which all the other love is built.

From everywhere comes the message that what I’m doing is for weaklings, losers, failures, pussies; that if I had money and status, I could keep my wife “in line”; that her self-discovery comes at the expense of my self-esteem. My open marriage has made heavy demands on my ability to silence the voice of doubt in my head, that gnawing feeling of worthlessness. But I find I can meet those demands, and that I am able to build my self-confidence out of nothing more than the basic dignity we all possess.

I’m grateful to my wife for pushing us to take this leap.

What Open Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism