Ask your husband to imagine that this is you, and then ask what he pictures you doing (and more importantly, who you’re doing it with). His answer might surprise you!

If he says he pictures you blowing another guy besides him, don’t be indignant or jump to bad conclusions!

Ask him some questions about what’s going on in his mind. You’ll be reassured that he loves you, and that this fantasy of his is perfectly natural. It means he idolizes you in a sexual way, and wants more of you in a primal way.

It’s up to you and him to decide what your couple fantasies are. Not your favorite daytime TV host or preacher man. The funny thing is that nearly nobody in the media or Hollywood acknowledges these very common urges. They’d rather stick to complaining about the 50% divorce rate! It’s up to you and him to talk about yourselves in a real way.

Oh yeah, one more thing. Don’t be surprised if your husband gets really affectionate and open with his feelings. Why? Because you’re showing that you care about what turns him on instead of what the stereotypes say he should think. He’ll be so reassured by your love and interest that he’s going to want to get really close to you.

Are you ready to feel extra-close to your man in a way you haven’t for a long time? If you’re not, then just ignore this post. But if you want to really reach inside him and coax him out…trust us, just let him be honest with you about his fantasies about you doing other guys!

Doesn’t make sense? Well, it’s primal sex. It’s not supposed to make sense. It’s just supposed to be fun, hot, and contribute to your life somehow!