We’re sharing an excellent overview article by Brenna at Front Porch Swingers. Here, she details how friendships, professional relationships, and sexual satisfaction (of course) have been positively impacted by opening up her marriage.
Her big takeaways from her own experiences fall under three big headers;
Lifestyle Ladies Tend to Treat Other Females Differently—Women in free and open lifestyle relationships are very often kinder, more complimentary and supportive of other women.
Lifestyle LadiesTell Others What They Want—Women who play around with others gain confidence in the bedroom, which leads to confidence in the workplace and everywhere else!
Lifestyle LadiesCan Speak Honestly with Others About Sex—Women who are free to openly share ideas with their female friends have a leg up on gaining satisfaction and confidence.
Between the main headers you’ll find some great thoughts and experiences that might make you smile. And it’s a short read—it’s worth your time!
Pretty new hotwifing podcast: Holly’s Hotwife Life.
This is an introductory episode, which touches lightly on:
What they’re like as a couple
What she’s like as a person
How the fantasy came up in conversation
False starts
The first experience (it gets pretty sexy right at this point!)
How things have been going since then
Highly recommended for people who are more curious about their own fantasies!
Check it out, and support her great endeavor to provide public information on this kink! Rate the podcast, and drop her a line with questions and comments. Note: we’re not affiliated with this podcast at all—we just think it’s great that she’s doing this public service! 😁
And your husband loves that your playdate loves your ass, and he loves how much you love the awesome things they both say about you. It’s just a big, confusing circle of people loving stuff!
From a reader (wife) who wants to stay anonymous:
It’s strange to write things like this down, but it’s something that I have been thinking about.
I’ve only kissed or tasted one man since I started dating my future husband, some 20 years ago. I haven’t been caressed or kissed by anyone since then. Even before I met my husband, I didn’t really have a lot of experience. I was naïve, and all I knew was that I was supposed to meet the right guy and marry him. Which I did, and I have never regretted that once in my life! I’d do it all over again.
I’m also not ashamed that I’ve been so faithful and loyal to my husband, since that’s all we knew about for most of our life. If I’d have cheated, it would have been a massive betrayal, and I would have regretted it. So I’m proud of how faithful I have been, and I love that I’ve never once given my husband a reason to doubt my loyalty.
But if I’m being honest, way down deep I have gotten curious about what another man would be like. Mainly things like kissing, hugging, holding close, but also much more explicit things too. I’m surprised at myself! But I feel free to imagine things a lot more lately.
My husband and I have been talking about some of his fantasies. I’ll admit, I was shocked at him at first, because I thought he’d be the last man to ever think about something like this. After I told him I didn’t like talking about this kind of thing (honestly, I was very uncomfortable), the truth is that it got in my head. It’s kind of like a song that’s too catchy, and so you have to whistle it or hum it all day. I just hadn’t known that there were other ideas out there.
I’m not at a point where I’m ready to start meeting guys to date, even though my husband says he’d be okay with that. I still have things to think about. But I definitely know I’m looking at men a whole lot differently these days.
What I found more surprising is that I’m looking at myself differently too. I haven’t lost anything, and I’m still the same loving wife and mom. What has happened is that I’ve got a whole different sense of how attractive I might be, or something like that. Hard to explain it exactly. My husband says he’s noticed “something different”, and we are having more (and I think better) sex than we have in years. Thanks, other guys! Lol.
This is all pretty new to me, and I’m still thinking it over. But I know that I definitely have some curiousity about what I might like to do. It’s not a threat to my husband, and it’s making a good thing even better.
I think I’m going to to try something I never tried, which is flirting. I never learned how, even when I was younger. I’m also paying more attention to what I find attractive in men. I’m honestly…just more horny lately. One day I came pretty close to downloading Tinder to see what it was like, but I chickened out. I think I want my husband to be there if I do that, and I’m still too chicken to bring it up. It’s hard enough to admit it anonymously, but it’s also liberating and sort of sexy.
I’m still the same loyal wifey, but I’m having some fun with my husband’s crazy idea. I’m also glad to see that we’re not alone. Is it just me, or does everyone else who’s 40 years old start doing things like this? I guess I just notice it more now that I’m looking into it.
Big questions I have about actually doing something like this are mostly about safety. I think I want to make sure I would only see a guy who has been tested. I’d want to be someplace safe and secret. I think I’d like to do it out of town, and have a real date. I like the idea of dinner and the whole works. These are some of the things I have questions about. But even the questions are sexy, which is something my husband pointed out.
There were so many “feelings” to keep track of! Emotionally, I was excited, scared, nervous, horny, giddy…
I was excited as this was something new that not every wife gets to experience. The guy was super sexy (still is actually), so I was excited to touch and be touched by him.
I was scared since this was so far out of what is socially acceptable and I wasn’t sure how it would affect my marriage. My husband seemed excited, but would it negatively affect the way he looked at me?
So nervous if I would do it “right”. I had only been with an ex-husband and my current husband. I was t sure what to expect with a new guy. No other man had touched me in this way in almost 15 years!
By the time we were on the way the guy’s place, I was SOOO horny! We were committed and my pussy was ready. My husband said he had never felt me so wet!
I was so giddy I couldn’t stop smiling the whole drive over. My husband’s reactions to my excitement made me so happy! My smile quickly changed to moans of pleasure once the guy got to work.
The physical feeling is hard to describe. Having a stranger’s hands and mouth touch me in such an intimate way was electrifying! And once his hard cock was between my legs, I had lost all inhibitions. He was lying on his back on the couch and I was straddling him cowgirl, with my tongue down his throat. I was completely unaware of my husband’s presence. I was sliding my super wet pussy along his shaft, no penatration yet. Then without thinking about it, my hips came up just a bit, and his cock slide in so easily! The sensation of having a new cock slide inside of me after 15 years of only enjoying my husband’s was overwhelming! I came almost immediately! My first playmate spent the next hour fucking me in multiple positions.
My husband reacted just as he expected to! He was so turned on to watch me enjoy a new cock. That’s all we talked about for the next couple weeks. He was a little disappointed with the way I became unaware of his presence for a bit. But he understood it was mostly out of my control. I did make an effort at future play dates to keep some focus on him.
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